Why You Need to Stop Saying “I Don’t Care”
As soon as you say it, it’s not true.
I Don’t Care
Three little words. Fewer than a dozen letters. A phrase that rolls off our tongues so easily we say it to loved ones, coworkers, waitresses and ourselves without thinking about what we really mean.
It’s a phrase that stands in for a range of ideas and emotions. It can express confusion, disinterest, open-mindedness, awkward admiration or malicious intent.
At best, using a phrase with such an unclear meaning is pointless. At worst, it results in miscommunication and conflict. Which is why you should make up your mind to stop saying “I don’t care” and say what you really mean instead.
“I don’t care” doesn’t mean you’re easygoing and polite
I took a road trip from California to Vermont in a borrowed Honda Civic with my friend Cory. As we were crossing into Arizona, he asked me what I wanted to have for lunch.
When I answered, “I don’t care,” he slammed on the brakes and pulled over.
“I don’t care means fuck you,” he said. “Show some goddamn courtesy and give me an answer.”
We talked our way across the country on the trip, but that one little exchange is the only thing I can…
