Thanks for reading my piece and writing such a thoughtful piece in response to it.
I am going to confess something — that piece was something I whipped of in an hour without giving it a second thought. Everything in it is true, and I had been thinking about how at the time I was dating that guy, I felt crazy for wanting to break up with him because everyone kept telling me what a NICE guy he was.
But the story has taken on a life of its own for sure. I read the first few comments, but then stopped because a lot of them seemed mean spirited or based on a misunderstanding from the story. One lady even went in to a different story that I wrote to tell me that I was a self-centered bitch! I also took my email address out of my profile because I started getting many emails, mostly from men blaming ‘women like me for’ ruining them. One man told me I am the reason prostitution exists. Hmm.
Anyway, after reading your piece, I can see that you understood what I was trying to say, so I can sleep a little better.
Good luck to you in finding someone who is better than nice!